Na-Freddie Aguilar ka ba?

On October 17, 2013, Aguilar openly admitted, in spite of the controversy that followed, that he is in a relationship with a 16-year-old girl, with plans to marry and even have children, as his partner insisted that she is willing to have a baby.

“ I wonder if the 16-year old girl has a complete understanding of what motherhood is and what it entails-and I ask myself what kind of life their future children would have if they will continue this”….

October 17, 2013 is the day he changed the meaning of his internationally acclaimed song " Anak". I guess the biggest problem that he has encountered here is that Freddie Aguilar is a Pinoy Rock Icon,

He is considered to be a strong activist who writes songs that pertain to justice ----you can safely say he was sort of the " Bob Marley" icon of the Philippines until he openly admitted to dating a 16 year old and even plans to marry her. He was wrote songs that pertained to “ justice”…is there any justice to what is happening here?

Don't get me wrong, I am for free love and acceptance.

 I even support Lesbians and gay rights...I am one of those who would willingly defend the right of people to fall in love and be with the person they want despite their sexual orientation.

 If the girl was 23 years old I will not react--but we have a different case here...we have a 16 year old girl who barely knows what marriage life is.

Our biggest issues here are that Ka Freddie Aguilar was dating a minor, the sad thing here is that some people believe that what he has done should be accepted by the society--to them its a form of love..to me it is pure selfishness.

If she ever gets married and have children…the children of Freddie Aguilar how would she face this as a 16 year old girl?

A 16 year old girl is most probably just a first or second year college student  who most likely has no idea what life is all about. She should be in school right now, she should be hanging out with girls her age.

 After her graduation she should be traveling right now to different places to understand more and she should be thinking about how she will be sustaining herself--how she will get promoted in her job...But No...right now...her biggest worry is not getting pregnant, her biggest challenge would be how to understand a guy who is in an alternate reality--her grandpa.

When I was 16, my world was not focused on creating a baby with a 60-year old guy...when I was 16  was focused on studying and participating in various school activities like joining our school paper or watching my friends audition for the Glee Club.

This is supposed to be a time for learning, for progressing, for understanding. We are living in a modern society where women can have a say at the kind of life they want--but how will she do this when she will rely on the income of Freddie Aguilar---( if his family would be willing enough to support any child she will bear in the future)

  Freddie Aguilar has stated that the parents of the girl has consented to the relationship--I am thinking that the family of this girl is poor and would willingly sell their daughters to a guy who can probably offer them a better life.

A number of Filipino families are still doing this to their daughters, it's not documented and it is not as excruciating compared with Indian women who are sold into marriage at the age of 7 but nonetheless it is still painful to hear.

 It has the same impact on the girl who is forced to marry just to survive, this is something that should not be happening right now… but why are women still forced to marry just so their families will have something to eat at the end of the day…

This 16 year old girl might think that this is her free will and her idea…but is it really?  Can a 16 year old girl understand what she has entered into at this fragile age?

In the past I have met 14 to 17 year old girls forced by their parents to work as a prostitute, this story is not new. 

These girls come from Bicol  most of the time--( I am not saying all girls from Bicol are prostitutes or that everyone from Bicol has this mentality--just to be safe.)

But for personal observation a lot of these women are being forced into prostitution or marriage to a rich old guy just so the family can sustain their lives. Forcing your kids to marry a rich guy just so you can have a better life is still prostitution and abuse.

If you will notice the picture of Freddie Aguilar and the 16-year old girl you would think the girl tried to look older than her age..which means these was probably the idea of her parents in the first place...to send her to places where she would meet old rich men whom she can ask money from.

Without a proper education...women would be forced to adapt to this kind of lifestyle. Guys like Freddie Aguilar would think that they are providing love by giving this girl money and marrying them...but in many ways they have participated in corrupting the chances of this girl to understand more about what she wants from life.

Right at this very moment, she might already be pregnant...pregnant at the age of 16. In the olden times, this practice would have been accepted in society due to lack of opportunities...but times have changed...

Others say it is love...for me it is pure domination and selfishness of an old guy who has the money. He has the money to charm girls who are not able to go to school and who don't know any better about life.

I hope that everyone who said it is alright ...will look at their own daughters and nieces one day...I hope they will have the courage to tell me that it is ok for their daughters to marry and get pregnant with a 60 year old guy--may they be able to tell that it is about love and not money... may they be able to tell me it is out of love and not lust.

To me the topic of love is out of the question here, you will not hurt the chances of a person you love. You will allow them to grow--you will allow them to understand the world better. 

Love is not about domination or control.

Freddie Aguilar can claim that he loves that girl and he can provide her with all the material things she could ever want and some people will believe it is for the best.

But it is not in any way changing the fact that an Innocent Girl has been corrupted. Yes Innocent. She is 16...even a 26 year old woman like me is still learning about what life means.

I mourn for the innocence corrupted. I mourn for the fact that some people can call the corruption of innocence as Love.